An aspiring facilitator in his mid 20 asked me what to do when he couldn't stand the urge to answer his participants' questions.
"Some of those questions are annoyingly easy that if I answer, it would've save me thirty minutes of my session," he rambled.
After a fifteen minutes of revealing conversation, it wasn't a classic case of neutrality to content that I found among many facilitators.
Deep inside, this young professional had his ambition to perform, on stage, and under the limelight. While he wasn't sure about fame or popularity, his nurture shaped him into craving these.
All facilitators literally have to perform, on a stage or a space where all participants' eyes are directed toward to. Most of the times, proper lighting are needed.
But they're all for the purpose of performing.
Good facilitators will stand at the front when needed, while most of the time they stand on the edge. They speak only when needed, and when they do, they speak efficiently, focusing on guiding not patronizing, providing instructions not assessment, and questioning not telling.
Take a deep breath. Have you done the latters? No worries, I still do sometimes. What is most important is to be aware, make amends and learn to prevent it happening again.
But craving to fame may come discreetly.
When you appreciate your performance more than participants', when you enjoy listening to your voices more than listening to participants' insights, or when you are more excited to see pictures of you on stage more than pictures of participants' interactions, you need to ask this question (again):
"Why do I facilitate?"
Go ahead, take few minutes to ponder. Share your story below.